A Breakdown from “Fly Me to the Philippines”
If you’re a Western man dating online in the Philippines, you need to read this.
The YouTube show Fly Me to the Philippines recently exposed some brutal truths about Filipina scammers. In a candid episode, host Chrissy and her co-host pulled back the curtain on the top 10 dirty secrets of Filipina dating scams—and how you can avoid becoming a victim.
🚩 The $200 Trap – The First Red Flag
Chrissy says it straight: If a Filipina asks for money within 10 to 15 days, it’s likely a scam.
“$200 might seem like nothing to you, but here in the Philippines, it’s a full month’s wage.”
The story always sounds urgent:
- A sick grandmother
- A broken sewing machine
- A kid who needs medicine
But the timing is always the same. Around day 10–15, the ask comes in. That’s your kryptonite. If you give it, the relationship becomes transactional. It’s no longer about connection—it’s about what you can provide.
🎭 The Long Con – How She Plays the Waiting Game
Not all scammers rush the process. Some Filipinas are playing the long con.
They:
- Avoid asking for money early
- Seem more sincere
- Let months pass before making a request
These women might even meet you in person, sleep with you for a week, and seem loyal. But behind the scenes, they could be juggling 3–5 other foreign men in different time zones—each sending ₱10,000–₱15,000/month for “rent” or other excuses.
The goal? Build a passive income from multiple boyfriends.
📱 Social Media is the Truth Machine
Before you send money—or even emotionally invest—check her social media.
Chrissy says this is where scammers slip up. Look for:
- Hidden or private profiles (🚩 red flag)
- Fake names or altered birthdays
- Bikini pics and party photos with other men
- Children labeled as “nieces” or “nephews” (they might be hers)
If she sends you a sexy picture in the first 20 minutes of chatting—back off.
“She looks half-Ukrainian and half-Filipina? Probably not real.”
Western men, especially those over 50, often aren’t fluent in Facebook, TikTok, or Instagram—and that’s where scammers thrive.
🎟️ Use Your Superpower (and Know Your Kryptonite)
Your superpower as a foreigner is your ability to actually show up.
“If you tell a Filipina you’re coming in 3 weeks, she might ignore 20 other men to wait for you.”
But if you’re all talk—no plane ticket, no real plan—then you’re just another profile in her inbox.
The advice?
🟢 Start chatting only 30–45 days before your trip
🟢 Use your power to fly in and meet her
🟢 Stay for at least 3 weeks
Why 3 weeks? That’s how long it takes to see:
- If other men are in the picture
- If she can give you consistent attention
- If she uses guilt or manipulation (aka tompo or passive-aggressive tactics)
🕵️♂️ Investigate Her Family
When you marry a Filipina, you marry the entire family.
Ask:
- How many siblings does she have?
- What do they do for a living?
- Who is that man in her tagged photos?
Some men have discovered—too late—that the “uncle” was her ex or that her “nephew” was her son.
Look for red flags like:
- Family members asking for help
- Drug or gambling problems
- Relatives pressuring her for money
🧾 Cenomar = Certificate of No Marriage
Want to be sure she’s single?
Order her CENOMAR (Certificate of No Marriage) from PSA.gov.ph. It costs around $8 USD, but it can save you thousands—and heartbreak.
If she’s really serious about you, she’ll:
- Already have it
- Be willing to provide it
If she avoids this topic or makes excuses—it’s likely she’s still married.
💔 Why Most Men Fail
It’s not because they lost $200. It’s because they lost hope.
They believed the woman was real. They thought they found love. But it turns out, she just needed money for a sewing machine—and he was just one of many.
Don’t give your heart before:
- You’ve met in person
- You’ve spent weeks together
- You’ve checked her story
📢 Final Tips to Avoid Getting Scammed
✅ Block anyone who asks for money in the first 15 days
✅ Don’t reply to women who message you first on dating apps
✅ Investigate social media before any emotional investment
✅ Stay in the Philippines for at least 3 weeks
✅ Meet the family and ask direct questions
✅ Order a CENOMAR before proposing anything serious
✅ Watch out for love bombing and flattery too soon
✅ If she’s too hot, too perfect, and too fast—she’s probably fake
🎥 Watch the Full Episode
🔗 Fly Me to the Philippines – 10 Dirty Secrets Video
